In common thoughts, school is supposed to help children develop into intelligent people by providing them with the knowledge and tools they need to live a fulfilling life.
However, the reality is that the school is not teaching children the life lessons they need.
“Education is what remains after you forget what you learned in school.” – Albert Einstein
Here is a list of 10 life lessons we are not taught in school, although it is imperative that everyone knows.
1. Memorization does not mean understanding
One of the most harmful ideas children are taught in school is that remembering information about things means actually understanding them.
Consequently, most of them do not learn to develop their critical thinking skills or base their arguments on evidence.
Instead, they blindly accept and believe what is imposed on them by tradition, without questioning whether what they know is true or not. This prevents them from developing into wiser people.
2. Titles won’t make you feel important
From a very young age, children are deceived into believing that getting a higher education will make them feel happy and important, no matter how much they have to endure to achieve it.
But the truth is, degrees and titles cannot bring us satisfaction, because they cannot give us what we really crave, things like meaning, connection and creativity.
They can only give us temporary, superficial egoistic gratification, but in the end they always fail us.
3. Failure and mistakes are normal
Children are usually afraid of failure. This is because students are brainwashed to think that failure is bad and that they need to avoid mistakes at all costs.
However, the reality is that mistakes and failures are what teaches us truth from fiction and right from wrong. Failure helps us become better thinkers and problem solvers.
Unfortunately, due to their conditioning, many no longer set new goals in life so as not to fail and thus miss out on the opportunity to learn and grow.
4. Doing nothing is not a waste of time.
When a child does not feel like doing something that an adult considers productive but wants to relax, contemplate, play and have fun, parents, and teachers usually complain that it is just a waste of time.
Thus, children from an early age learn that free time is meaningless and useless, and that constant employment, hard work is the only thing that gives meaning in life.
This puts them in a constant state of stress, which sooner or later leads to emotional fatigue and psychosomatic illnesses.
No one taught them that free time to relax and do nothing can actually help us release our worries and anxieties, recharge our batteries, and focus on the moment.
5. Laziness can be helpful
In modern society, we believe that laziness is a kind of evil, and those who are lazy have nothing to do in life.
The truth, however, is that laziness is essentially a form of rebellion against the diseased normality of society.
As schoolchildren, most children have to attend classes where they do everything they hate and rarely do something they really enjoy. Unsurprisingly, they become lazy and live a boring life that they never chose and that brings them no joy.
However, when given the time and space to do what they love, they are suddenly energized and express themselves to the fullest of their being.
From this point of view, laziness is nothing more than a healthy sign that a person does not want to correspond to the madness of our world.
6. Work should be fun
In school, children are taught that they must sacrifice their time and energy, as well as suppress themselves for years in order to get a diploma so that they can later use it to get a decent job.
As a result, by the time they become adults, most of them associate work with suppression and sacrifice.
One of the main life lessons children are not taught in school is that work can be meaningful and rewarding when done with love.
Work can actually be one of the most wonderful experiences when the desire for it sprouts spontaneously from within. However, when the work is done under duress – because it has to be done – it becomes a simple routine.
7. Competition Is Wrong
From the moment children enter school, they are taught that competition is beneficial and helps improve learning.
In this way, the school gives them the confidence that competition contributes to our well-being and progress, both individually and collectively.
Research, however, has shown that when children collaborate, they learn more easily than when they compete. In addition, collaboration enhances people’s creativity and helps solve problems, reinforcing the belief that competition is wrong.
In fact, the competition and military mentality that prevails in the world only hinder the progress of human civilization and are the main cause of the daily stress and violence that prevail around us.
8. Exams do not measure intelligence
At school, the knowledge and understanding of children is tested in exams. This gives students the impression that exam scores are a sufficient measure of their intelligence. However, the school examinations that exist in most parts of the world today are far from testing most aspects of human intelligence.
In fact, they tend to be little more than memory tests that require students to simply learn by heart and spew information they are likely to forget after graduation.
9. Money Can’t Buy Happiness
The main reason children are told to go to school is so that at some point in their lives they will be able to get a job and earn enough money, which in turn will bring them happiness.
Consequently, children get the impression that money should be their main goal in life, and that the more there are, the more successful they will be.
However, while in our competitive scarcity economic system it is true that money is needed to “make our living,” it cannot bring us happiness.
Happiness, studies show, mainly stems from healthy relationships with people and meaningful work, and is almost completely unrelated to money after meeting our basic physical needs.
10. Inconsistency is not bad
Each person is unique, without exception. However, our school system and our society as a whole force children to conform to the pattern, follow the rules and follow a predetermined path.
This is especially the case in school, where children must obey authority figures and blindly accept what they are taught.
However, history has repeatedly shown that all the great minds that have ever walked the earth have decided to rebel against the herd mentality, the authority of the issue and traditional beliefs and think for themselves. The path of inadequacy is certainly not easy, but it is the only way to find freedom and self-realization.
“A child who is educated only at school is an uneducated child” – George Santayana.
These life lessons are extremely important. But if they are not taught in school, we can learn them later.